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Moments of Beauty and Joy

snowflakesSnowflakes the size of quarters poured from the sky this afternoon as I made lunch.  “The last snowfall,” I said to myself, knowing even as I said it that it wasn’t true.  All of March stretches before us, after all.

But I stood and watched these lovely flakes fall for several minutes as if it were a sight I would not see again for a long while.  I wanted to hold in my heart how beautiful they are.

By the time I had eaten, they were gone.

Like the little waves of happiness that splash through our days, such moments of beauty are fleeting.   New waves wash in ceaselessly, of course, and if we are awake to it, beauty can always be found.  But we lose our focus.  Our thoughts dash off in different directions, called by the demands of the day.

So when they capture our awareness, these moments of beauty and joy, it’s wise to pause and savor them and to tuck them in memory’s store.

They’re comforts for the times when pain or sorrow walk across our thresholds, or when sleep won’t come.   When  our spirits are wavering on the edge of darkness, they tip the balance toward the light.

Somewhere in my pile of favorite quotations, I have one that says to look at each day as if it is your first one, or your last.  That’s wonderful advice.  And while I haven’t yet learned to hold my eyes open in wonder for a whole day, I have learned to catch the golden moments now and then—the ones that sparkle like the last snowfall.

 

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The Power of Enthusiasm

Enthusiastic GirlStop and think for a moment about the last time a wave of enthusiasm lifted you.  Go ahead, close your eyes, take a couple slow, easy breaths and let yourself remember.  Even if you can’t remember the specific time or event, conjure up the feeling of it—the freshness of it, the surge of energy, the feeling of excitement and confidence.

Maybe it was triggered by a new idea you received about how to reach a goal.  Maybe it was a new burst of hope that something you wanted was just around the corner.  Maybe it was even on behalf of someone else’s potential for success.  Whatever it was, there’s no denying that the feeling has power.

Catch a wave of enthusiasm and you’re lifted above the seas  of doubt and mediocrity.  The air is clear again, the sun is shining, and a whole world of possibilities is just waiting for your next move.  I know, because a new surge of it just grabbed me and I am sailing high!

Enthusiasm gives life zest and kindles our sense of purpose.

Henry Ford said, “Enthusiasm is the yeast that makes your hopes shine to the stars.  It’s the sparkle in your eyes, the swing in your gait, the grip of your hand, the irresistible surge of will and energy to execute you ideas.”

And it’s contagious, too!

How do you get it?  By ordering it up.   “Sounds good!  I think I’ll have me some of that!” you say to yourself, looking at life’s menu.  Why not!  What’s to stop you—except for some worry or belief that’s nothing more a flimsy, weightless idea floating around in your head?  Can it!

Don’t know what to be enthusiastic about?  How about the opportunities life gives you to see beauty, or to be generous or kind?  How about the tasks that are waiting to be done?  How about the people who give your life meaning?  Or the work that lets you put bread on your table?

This very moment is fresh and brand new.  You can spend it on anything at all you want to spend it on.  Be enthusiastic about that—about all the beautiful choices laying right there at your fingertips.  Then pick one and go at it—with all the joyous gusto that you’ve got.

If you’re stuck on building it, fill out the form in the upper right hand corner and read the Quick Guide.  You’ll find eight techniques from the science of positive psychology that will get you on track fast!

 

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Firing It Up

Car IgnitionThe mid-winter slumpies got me for a while there.   It’s cold, I told myself.  It’s dark.  It’s dreary.   And we still have to slog through all of February and March before the earth shows signs of life again.

I want to hibernate.  Or, failing that, to go on a steady chocolate diet.  I’m crabby and bored and can’t get my brain to work. I’m trudging through my tasks with no enthusiasm at all.  One day I actually stuck out my tongue at the woman in the mirror, her with that big smirky grin.

But then a line I read slapped me awake.  The writer asked herself this question:

 “How much could I do by the end of the year?”

Oh! YES!  My Dreams!” I shouted, scaring my cat.  They matter!  And time’s a wasting!

It was like somebody poured 20 gallons of fresh gas in my empty tank.  I switched on the ignition and smiled at the purr.  Then I steadily pressed the accelerator to the floor and never looked back.

Even when you have clear plans for yourself, it’s easy to get bogged down when you’re suspended between the holidays and springtime.

Time feels frozen…until you realize that it’s not.  It’s zooming past at light speed, and if you’re not going forward, you’re in reverse, because there’s no such thing as standing still.

If you need a jump start, remind yourself about your dreams.  Pull them to the front of your mind where you can see their shine again.  Step right into them.  See their color; hear their music; feel how you’ll feel when you’ve made them come true.

Remember why you wanted them and what difference you wanted them to make.  And if they’re not big enough to get you moving, make them bigger.  Make them reach farther.  Let them touch more lives.  How big can you make them?  How far can you go?  How much can you do by the end of the year?

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Change Rooms in Your Mind

Many RoomsWhile I was reading through a little stack of favorite quotes today, I came across this anonymous one: “Change rooms in your mind for a day.”

What a fabulous suggestion!  What would happen if you could?

What if tomorrow you moved into a mind room where you saw everything through happy glasses? Or through lenses that made everything beautiful?  What if you moved into a space that was filled with compassion?  Or one where you saw only the good in the people and events you experienced?

Want to try it?  Here’s the key:  You find what you look for.

(Brain’s are set up to work that way.  Decide right now that you want to notice the color green for the rest of the day and you’ll prove it to yourself.)

So all you have to do is decide, ideally at night, before you go to sleep, what mind room you want to practice living in tomorrow.  Give it a name: My Happy Room, My Room of Goodness.  It can be anything you choose.  My Acceptance Room, My Confidence Room, My Easy Room, My Kindness Room.  Anything.

Then, in the morning, remind yourself that you’re going to look at the world from inside your chosen room.

Now, I have to be honest with you.  It takes practice.  You won’t be able to stay in a different mind room for a whole day.  In fact, five minutes might be a stretch at first.  We’re terribly comfortable in our normal living rooms, after all.

But you can return to your chosen mind room any time you remember it.  Puts its name on a sticky note that you’ll see frequently to remind you.  Or put a little dot of ink on the back of your index finger as a signal.  Or program yourself to think of it whenever you look at a clock.

After a while, you’ll get so good at it that you’ll be able to create and move into a new mind room at will.

I’ve trained myself to enter a Room of Beauty whenever I go on a photo shoot, and now, the moment I head out the door, the world is utterly transformed.  Colors are suddenly more vibrant, and their shades more subtle.  I notice the way light strikes things and how shadows fall.  Everything takes on a depth of dimension.  Textures and contrasts come alive.  I call it “being in a trance of beauty,” and it’s wonderful!

Over the past few weeks, a wave of illness and misfortune has washed over a couple of close friends of mine, and I’ve put myself in a Room of Compassionate Acceptance where I could be caring and supportive without being overwhelmed by sadness.

Over the past few months, I’ve built a Heartful Listening Room to be more aware of changes of energy and nuances of emotion when I’m talking with someone.  To my delight, it’s also bringing new depth and richness to my music listening.  And I’m noticing more subtle sounds in my general environment.

The possibilities are endless, and endlessly enriching.

What kind of room are you going to build?  Leave your ideas as a comment below.

 

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Banish Your Limiting Beliefs

Looking for a way to ditch your limiting beliefs?  I ran across a great one on a forum this morning while I was randomly surfing.

I don’t know the identity of the author beyond his forum nickname, “Condor,” but I give him hearty thanks!

What Condor did was to write out a list of beliefs that he’s refusing to heed any more.

He said that just writing the list–which he titled, “Things I Refuse to Believe”–gave him an instant sense of well-being, joy and liberation.  He felt that just writing them down made them “disappear like magic.”

In addition to the general beliefs he shared, he also included private items on his list that pertained to him alone.
The beliefs he is refusing are the kinds of limiting beliefs we all have a tendency unwittingly to buy into.  It’s a brilliant list.  And I’m delighted to pass it along for your consideration.

Things I Refuse to Believe

I refuse to believe that “I Know” what is going to happen tomorrow or that tomorrow is going to be something like yesterday. Instead I believe that “I don’t know” anything about tomorrow. I don’t even know if there is going to be any tomorrow.

I refuse to belive that GOD wants anything from me “other than BE the best that I can BE” and help others to Be the best they can.

I refuse to believe that there is anything impossible, just because I have an stubborn idea that “I know” what is possible or not possible so:

I refuse to believe that “I know” what is possible and accept my ignorance about it.

I refuse to believe that there is anything I can’t do, just because I have an stubborn idea that “I know” everything about myself so:

I refuse to believe that “I know” everything about myself and I am willing to get to know a little bit everyday by facing the challenge.

I refuse to believe that I should stop pursuing something that I think is good for me, just because I have the stubborn idea that I don’t deserve it and that “I know” how much value I have so:

I refuse to believe that something is too difficult, just because I have the stubborn idea that “I know” something I haven’t learned yet to do it the right way.

I refuse to believe that “I know” how much value I have or that I have a price tag but I am willing to learn by experience how HIGH the Auction can Go.

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Don’t you feel lighter already?  Adopt the ones that suit you.  Share some of your own in the Comments, below.
(And Condor, if you happen to run across this post, drop me a line.  I’d love to hear from you!)

 

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