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The Nature of Positivity – What We Know

The Excellence of Effort

Posted on November 19, 2011 by

Mountain HikingSeventh grade is tough.  Suddenly you’re thrust from the comfort and security of a well-known environment where you were the big fish into the new, sophisticated world of junior high school.

Even if you have done pretty well in school until now, if you’re like most kids, your first report card is going to be a shock.  Your math scores, if you’re normal, are going to plummet.

Psychological research and author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, Carol Dweck, set out to see if she could change that.

She and her team went to several New York City public schools and separated the new seventh graders into two groups.  For half an hour once a week for eight weeks, they taught the kids about the way our brains work.

One group, the control group, learned about various brain functions, such as memory.  The other group learned how experience and genuine effort can make brains smarter.  Intelligence, they found out, was like a muscle.  The more work you give it to do, the stronger it gets.

Over the course of the school year, the math scores of the control group fell.  But the kids who had learned that working your brain makes it smarter got higher scores. 

Just showing them that it was possible to improve your learning ability motivated them to work hard enough to prove to themselves—and everybody else—that it was true.

Plenty of research since then backs up the hypothesis that Dweck had set out to prove: Whether we see intelligence (and other personal traits, too) as fixed or changeable significantly impacts our lives in surprising and counterintuitive ways.

The Flaws of the Fixed Mindset

If you believe that you were born with a fixed helping of intelligence, or of the ability to write or do math or be sociable, you’re what psychologists call an “entity theorist” and you’ll hold different kinds of values, make different kinds of choices, and set different kinds of goals than the “incremental theorists,” people who believe these traits can be developed and grown.

In her book Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals, Stanford psychologist Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D., says entity theorists turn away from challenging goals.  Because they believe they are stuck with a fixed amount of ability, they only go for things they’re pretty sure they can do.  They take it for granted that there are some skills they can never possess or some things they could never be good at doing.

Yet we promote entity theorizing in some very counter-intuitive ways.

Suppose, for example, that as you were growing up everybody told you, “You’re so smart!”   Would you be willing to tackle any challenge that came your way?

Surprisingly, the answer is no.  If you failed at something, after all, it would show that you weren’t as smart as you thought—or that others believed you were.  And that would be embarrassing, maybe even crushing.

Entity theorists (who see traits are fixed), believe there are limits to what they can achieve, that abilities are set and no improvement is possible.  They believe that talent creates success without effort and give up when things seem difficult.

According to an article in New York Magazine, for example, a large percentage of gifted kids underestimate their abilities.  If math or spelling don’t come easily to them, they assume they just aren’t good at that subject and set it aside for something that is easy.

Kids “who think that innate intelligence is the key to success,” the article explains,” begin to discount the importance of effort. I am smart, the kids’ reasoning goes; I don’t need to put out effort. Expending effort becomes stigmatized—it’s public proof that you can’t cut it on your natural gifts.

Most American parents think it’s important to tell their kids that they’re smart.   “But a growing body of research,” the New York Magazine article says, “strongly suggests it might be the other way around.  Giving kids the label ‘smart’ does not prevent them from underperforming.  It might actually be causing it.”

The Power of the Incremental  Mindset

The better way to help a child—or anyone else, for that matter—is to encourage the incremental mindset by praising her for her effort:  “Wow!  You must have put a lot of work into that!”

The positive results the incremental, or growth, mindset produces even show up in the corporate world.

When CEOs believe that mistakes help people learn, they can lead their companies into greatness, Dweck says.  Such leaders encourage employees to see their mistakes as providing valuable feedback that they can use to develop different strategies.  They set up mentoring and employee development programs to encourage employee growth.

Companies that see themselves only as a showcase for brilliance, on the other hand, try to hide their mistakes and often end up failing.

Take Home Lessons

The first take home lesson is that if you want to be great at something, get to work on it.  “If you can’t excel with talent, triumph with effort,” says talk show host Dave Weinbaum, and he got it right.

At her website Mindset Online,  Dr. Dweck cites Robert Sternberg, “the present-day guru of intelligence” as saying that “the major factor in whether people achieve expertise “is not some fixed prior ability, but purposeful engagement.”

The second lesson is to challenge your limitations and dare the rough ground.   Don’t deny yourself exciting and valuable opportunities just because you’re not sure you can do them.   Keep reminding yourself that you can learn.  The science in neuroplasticity says experience even changes our DNA.

“The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it,” says Dweck, “even (or especially) when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives.”

Part of the reason that you thrive when you adopt the incremental mindset is that you no longer fear failure.  It falls into its rightful place as information instead of acting as a label of your abilities or worth.   It’s still not fun to fail of course. But when you see things with a growth mindset, it becomes worthwhile, freeing you to give even the scary things a run for their money.

And doing the difficult makes you feel like a million bucks.

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How Optimistic Are You, Really?

Posted on October 27, 2011 by

Glass Half Full

“Nothing ever works out for me,” Jake told me for the hundredth time.  “Every time I think things are finally going smooth, something happens.”

“Well, then,” I joked, “Maybe you better give up thinking!”

He laughed and then told me about his latest misfortune. It’s only his sense of humor that keeps him from sinking completely into the depression he continuously fights.
Jake’s the most confirmed pessimist that I know.  And yet, according to an article in WebMD magazine, he has a lot of company.  50% of Americans, the article reports, assume things are always getting worse.

Given that percentage, it came as no surprise to me when USA Today reported earlier this month that the number of Americans taking antidepressant drugs doubled in the last decade.   Pessimism makes us vulnerable to depression’s snare.

How about you?  If you were to take a quiz about your level of optimism, how would you rate?  If you’re like me, you might be surprised.

Take the Optimism Quiz—I Double Dog Dare You

As an ardent student of positivity who makes every effort to walk my talk, I blithely assumed I’d get gold stars for optimism when I took this brief 15-question quiz.  So when my results said “You’re a Pessimist” and told me that I only scored 60%, I was shocked.

Optimistically, I blamed the test construction, and went off in search of a better quiz.
I found one, too.  This one, from Stanford University, is scientifically grounded and based on the work of Dr. Martin Seligman, one of the founders of positive psychology.  After doing extensive research in learned helplessness, Dr. Seligman set out to investigate optimism and to see if it could be learned as well.  He chronicles his findings in his book Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life, and it’s on his research that this test is based.

The results aren’t delivered to you in a single score—although the various parts of it are totaled to give you an overall reading.  And it was a big help in showing me where I was pessimistic in my thinking and why I ranked as a pessimist in the simpler quiz.

To my relief, it also showed me where I was strong in optimism.

 

Why Knowing Matters

Getting insight into the ways I was evaluating situations pessimistically was really valuable for me.  I could see right away how my viewpoint operated in my life, where it served me well, and where it was getting my way.   Armed with my new knowledge about myself, I can begin to be more aware of how I interpret things and to make conscious choices that will increase my well-being.

Knowing your weaknesses and strengths is always an asset.  When you’re aware of behaviors that are preventing you from being all you can be, you can begin to make changes in a more freeing direction.

Next week I’ll describe the aspects of optimism that the Learned Optimism Quiz measures.  If I told you about them today, the information might skew your answers to the quiz.  And it’s important that you get accurate results.

 

The Perils of Pessimism

Even if you don’t especially enjoy taking quizzes, may I strongly suggest that you take this one?  It will only take you a few minutes, and if you have some invisible areas of pessimism in your life, it’s important for you to know.

It’s more than a matter of how much you enjoy your life—although pessimism is definitely a joy-stealer.  Whether you look at life’s perils instead of its promises can impact your life in a number of serious ways.  Here’s what the research shows:

  • Pessimistic people are more likely to suffer from depression and sadness;
  • Performance at work, school and sport is dragged down by pessimism;
  • Pessimists rarely venture outside their comfort zone;
  • Pessimistic people are less likely to use their  talents as fully as they might, robbing themselves of the enjoyment of self-expression;
  • Pessimistic people are poor leaders compared to their optimistic peers;
  • Pessimistic people have weaker immune systems and poorer health.  They catch colds more frequently and are more likely to suffer a second heart attack.
  • They don’t live as long as optimists. They suffer the chronic diseases of aging earlier and more severely;
  • Pessimistic people are more easily knocked down by life’s disappointments and setbacks; their resilience is low, and so is their ability to persevere when obstacles arise;
  • They miss out on a lot of life’s richness and joys.

 

The Good News

The good news is, first, pessimism isn’t all bad; it does have its positive side.

The value of pessimism is that it lends itself to more accurate judgment in many cases.  The pessimist’s view of things isn’t distorted by enthusiasm or a bias toward best outcomes.  Pessimists are likely to be more aware of potential dangers and are more careful in risky situations.  They don’t overestimate their abilities.

Sometimes pessimistic people claim that they are more realistic than their optimistic counterparts.  And in general, they are right.  They tend to be more grounded in physical reality, often perceive it more accurately, and are good at observing details.

But not all pessimists are realists, and not all optimists distort reality.

Secondly, life-enhancing optimism is a skill that you can build.   As with any skill, all it takes is attention, a desire, some information and practice.

Next week we’ll look at methods you can use to boost your optimism to create a more flourishing life.

For now, do yourself a favor and take a few minutes to take the Learned Optimism Quiz so you can refer to it when we look at optimism’s parts, see what your scores mean,  and explore how to be a flexible optimist, capable of using both ends of the spectrum for optimum well-being.

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Perseverance: The Power of Keeping On

Posted on September 29, 2011 by

Tortoise, No HareUnearthing the human strengths that would serve as the basis for a new psychology was an act of perseverance in itself.

The small team of psychologists who set out to build a science of human thriving dug through over two hundred “catalogs of virtue,” as Dr. Martin Seligman called them, from “traditions flung across three thousand years and the entire face of the earth.”

When they had finished their digging, they had a list of six virtues that were endorsed by almost all religions and philosophical traditions:

  •  Wisdom and knowledge
  • Courage
  • Love and humanity
  • Justice
  • Temperance, and
  • Spirituality and Transcendence

And it was from these virtues that they developed the 24 character strengths that express them.  Their perseverance paid off, creating a solid foundation for building the new science of positive psychology.

Perseverance is Courage in Action

But that was just the beginning.  They had a long way to go.

It took more long hours of thought and study to figure out what made a particular trait a genuine strength and then to identify the ones that expressed the six virtues.

And they had to keep going even when their peers scoffed at their goals or dismissed their efforts as futile.

To persist in your efforts when the going gets tough takes courage.   The temptation to quit, to throw in the towel and give up can be strong when you’re tired, when the work seems overwhelming, when you’re not getting much support from others.   And courage is exactly the virtue that perseverance expresses.

A Definition of Perseverance

When you look at the list of 24 VIA (Values in Action) Strengths, you’ll see that perseverance is also associated with industriousness and diligence because the three traits are so similar in the real world.  Here’s a definition ofperseverance from Dr. Seligman that gives a clear picture of it:

 
“You finish what you start.  The industrious person takes on difficult projects and finishes them, ‘getting it out the door, with good cheer and minimal complaints.  You do what you say you will do and sometimes more, never less.”

If that describes you, congratulations!  Perseverance is probably one of your signature strengths.  But if, like me, finishing what you start takes genuine effort and determination, don’t give up hope.

Building Your Stick-to-it-ivity

Unlike inborn talents, strengths are traits we can build.   Each of us has his signature strengths—the ones that seem so natural that we take them for granted, the ones that others easily see in us and that energize us when we’re using them.  (Note that the person who has perseverance as a signature strength not only gets things done, but does them cheerfully.  She gets a charge from wrapping things up.)

Perseverance is such a valuable character trait (I’ll talk about why in just a minute.) that Napoleon Hill, in chapter nine of his famous book Think and Grow Rich, says the four steps you must take to develop it are “essential for success in all walks of life.”
The four steps he gives are:

  1. A definite purpose, backed by a burning desire for its fulfillment;
  2. A definite plan, expressed in continuous action;
  3. A mind closed tightly against all negative and discouraging influences, including negative suggestions of relatives, friends and acquaintances; and
  4. A friendly alliance with one or more persons who will encourage one to follow through with both plan and purpose.

Sounds a little daunting, doesn’t it?  Well, part of that is the way Hill says it.  His language is a little over the top for us today.   What he’s really saying is nothing more than have a goal you care about and a plan for moving toward it.  Ignore what everybody else says about your goal; make up your mind that you are going to do it no matter what.  Then enlist the committed support of a trusted friend or two and get going.  Take one little step after another, after another, after another.

Why Bother?

Let’s look at the first step:  Have a goal that you care about.

If your goal is going to be “to build my persistence,” you have to know why it’s important to you.  That’s a quality all good goals have, by the way; they’re genuinely meaningful to you on a personal, heartfelt level.  It’s the “why” of a goal that gives it motivating power.

So what’s in it for you that would make building your ability to to finish what you start worthwhile? Mental health counselor Mike Bundrant  offers these powerful benefits:
1. Self-Respect:  “No matter what you are struggling with,” he says, “—no matter what—you will respect yourself more if you keep up the good fight. Every day that you continue efforts to make progress, you know within yourself that you are doing all you can.”
2. Hope: Because perseverance tends to pay off, it gives us hope, Mike says, for the days ahead.
3. The Passion of the Struggle:  (And personally, this is my favorite one.)  “In a deeper way, those who valiantly persevere through the difficult challenges of life share something in common with the greatest people who have ever live. Many of the great achievements of the world were accomplished by tired and discouraged people who simply kept on going.”

But there’s more.   Not only do you develop an enhanced sense of self-respect when you consistently get things done that you set out to do, other people learn that you can be trusted to follow through, too.

Especially in the work place, a reputation for being able to get things done, thoroughly and on time, is a tremendous asset.   People begin to think of you as reliable, as someone they can trust with projects that matter.  In every walk of life, the ability to deliver what you promised is seen as the mark of a leader.

Knowing that you will finish what you began builds your confidence in yourself.  Your goals become more real to you because you know you won’t abandon them when the going gets tough.   You might falter.  You may need to start again and again.  You might need to revise your plan or to find a new strategy or method.  But when you know, as a certainty, that you will find a way and keep on keeping on, you will find yourself daring to accomplish more, and bigger, and more beautiful dreams.

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Raging Positivity: How to Be Happy Through and Through

Posted on August 24, 2011 by

Girl Splashing in SeaSo you want to be happy?  Here’s the deal.  You have to jump into the ocean of positivity with body, heart and soul.  You can’t just walk to the edge and stick your toe in.  You need to let yourself sink down to the very depths of positivity’s seas.  You have to be willing to reek of it, to have it smeared on your face for all the world to see.

You have to immerse yourself in it.  Let it become the air you breathe.

Watch movies that move you, that make you laugh, that inspire you to be the very best you can be.

Read inspiring stores about people who did great things.  Read stories that make you laugh, that touch you with their beauty.  Then share them with someone you love.

Keep asking yourself, “What’s the best thing about this very moment?  What else?  What else?”

When you look at the past, dig up the juiciest, warmest, most love-drenched, fun-drenched memories.  Wallow in the good times, in the friendships, the achievements.  Remember your favorite pet, your first kiss, your best vacation, the most meaningful holiday.

When you look toward the future, ten minutes from now or ten years, imagine your very best self living out your best dreams.

When you think about the people in your life, picture them smiling.  Picture them laughing.  Picture them looking at you with eyes full of light and love.

When you get up in the morning, expect that the day ahead will be fabulous.

When you’re shaving, be glad for the razor.  Or if you’re putting on makeup, be glad for the blush.

When you’re showering, be glad for soap and running water.  Thank your body parts for being as strong and healthy as they are.  Thank your skin for containing you, for giving your mind a center of focus.

Every time you look in the mirror, smile at yourself—the bigger the grin, the better.  If you see a grump looking back at you, stick out your tongue, scrunch up your nose, stick your thumbs in your ears and wiggle your fingers until you can laugh—or at least wink at yourself.

Thank the air for moving in and out of your lungs.  Send love out on your exhales and picture its molecules being breathed in by some poor bloke in Bangladesh or Mexico who needs a whiff of It’s Okay.

What Else? What Else?

Take your mind on circles around the globe.  Think of all its beauties and wonders.
Look at the sky.  Think about how infinite it is.  Think about all the pictures you’ve seen from the Hubble–the galaxies and nebulae, the countless swirling stars. All that stuff is really out there!  Think about how big it all is and be happy you have a brain that knows that.

Think about cells, about molecules and atoms and nanoparticles, all doing their quantum dances in some mysterious realm, and you, made of them.  Feed them right.  Take them for walks.  Give them enough sleep.

Think about all the life forms on the planet:  I heard on the radio this morning that 88,000 species of living things share this little globe with us.  The mammals, the reptiles, the insects, the fishes, the birds; the trees and grasses and flowers, the vegetables and fruits.  Wonder how it all got here.   Be amazed by life.

Check out the things around you and think about all the people who had to do their menial boring everyday jobs just to get them to you: the ones who harvested the raw materials, the ones who designed the product, the factory workers who pushed the buttons to add the ingredients and shape it, the ones who designed and built the conveyor belts to keep it moving, the ones who made the packaging, the accountants who kept the trucking company going, the truckers, the ones who built the road, the warehouse men and everybody who built the warehouse, and the clerks who got the item in your hands, the CEOs who coordinated it all and found the financing.  Think how amazing it is that it all works the way it does.  Think about how you live in the middle of an enormous freaking miracle.

Be grateful.  Be kind.  Tell people good news. It’s hard, living here on planet earth.  Help other people; pay attention to them.  Flash them a smile.  Show them compassion for them.  If they knew how to be any better, they would be.  We’re all doing the best that we can.

Try to stay awake.  Pay attention to your senses: they’re forever bringing you joy. Color, light, sound, texture, weight, motion, fragrance.  All for you!

As you fall asleep, think about the incredible richness of your day, think about the goodness your experienced, about the love that you gave and received.

Chant “Thank you!  Thank you!  Thank you!” endlessly.

That’s what you have to do: Go for it all the way.  Let positivity possess you.  Hold back nothing.  And it will hold nothing back from you.

 

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Cowed by Overthinking Negative Thoughts?

Posted on July 26, 2011 by

Black CowDo you ever catch yourself replaying hurtful arguments or remarks again and again in your mind?  If so, you’re ruminating—or overthinking—your negative thoughts.

Like all animals classified as “ruminants,” cows swallow their dinners and store them in their first stomach.  (They have two.)  Then later they bring the meal back up to chew it over again.  It helps their food digest well.  But ruminating doesn’t help us humans digest the negative incidents in our lives at all.   Instead, it makes the original hurt worse.

Consider the story Sara told me about a fight she had last Friday night with her boyfriend, Bob.  They each said some ugly, hurtful things to each other.  And Sara was still trying to get over it the next morning.  The more the argument played in her mind, the angrier she got.  She vented by saying even more hurtful things, and he did the same.

In tears, and wanting some relief from it all, she went to the kitchen to get coffee.  His piercing words followed her there.  She poured coffee for them both, stirring the cream and sugar into his, and then carried the cups back to the living room—only to realize, with a shock, that Bob wasn’t actually there.   He had stormed out last night and gone home.  The entire morning’s argument was just a fiction in her head.

“I just stood there, staring at the two cups of coffee in my hands,” she said, “realizing what I had been doing to myself.”   She wisely decided to go for a brisk walk to get a change of pace and to put her anger away for a while.  She would be able to find a better solution for things, she realized, once she had calmed down.

Overthinking’s Destructive Path

Sarah was lucky, in a way.   Seeing the two cups of coffee in her hand, and then realizing Bob wasn’t even there, brought her back to reality.  It’s easy, once you start ruminating about a negative incident, to get sucked in deeper and deeper.

When we experience negative emotions, positive psychology researcher Dr. Barbara Fredrickson explains, we dredge up all kinds of related incidents from the past.  “That’s simply the way our brains work,” she says.  “We create a chain of thoughts that are linked by their negative tone.”  And these just add fuel to the fire.

“You start out a little bit worried, ruminate, and your worry expends toward a full-blown anxiety attack.  Take a little bit of sadness, add rumination, and you bring on the symptoms of depression.”  Ruminate over your anger, she says, and you can end up turning to violence.

We tell ourselves we’re trying to think things through, to figure out a solution.  But what happens instead is that our overthinking only makes us more miserable, until we think the whole situation is beyond hope.

And because negativity narrows our perception of possibilities, we get lost in a downward spiral:

  • Depressed ManWe generalize our negativity onto other situations and events;
  • Our motivation gets sapped;
  • Our judgment becomes impaired;
  • We can’t concentrate;
  • All our initiative disappears.

We end up living in a world dominated by memories of past hurts and begin to see the world through a web of pain, missing all its beauty and possibilities entirely.

The Way Out of Rumination

Obviously, none of us wants to be stuck in such a dreary world.  Yet all of us can be vulnerable to the overthinking trap.  It can be compelling.  You can feel that you really need to get to the bottom of things and you’re going to chew on your situation until you figure it out.  But rumination will lead you away from a solution instead of helping you find one.
The first step to rescuing yourself and moving back toward a broader, more realistic perspective is to admit that you’ve been trapped.   Once you do that, a whole range of strategies is at your disposal.  Grab one, and you’ll immediately feel empowered.  Instead of feeling like a victim of the situation, you will have claimed your personal power again.
The “Stop!” Technique

One powerful “first aid” technique is the “Stop!” Technique – As soon as you catch yourself tumbling helplessly downstream on a river of negative thoughts, simply command your mind to stop.  Actually say, “Stop!” with all the firmness you can muster.  Then refocus on something more pleasant—a pet, someone you love, an activity you enjoy doing, a task you could do.  Read something.  Watch a movie.  Call a friend for a chat about some other subject.  Simply refuse to let yourself step back into the river.

Other Strategies

In her book The How of Happiness, Dr. Sonja advises that overthinkers take a three-pronged approach to the battle against persistent rumination:
1.  Break Loose – Distract yourself from the pull of the negative thought-loop.  “Good bets,” says Lyubomirskry, “are activities that make you feel happy, curious, peaceful, amused or proud.”   Admit that your overthinking isn’t getting you anywhere-and won’t.  Then make the decision to get involved in any activity that will let you be fully engaged.
2.  Act to Solve the Problem – The key word here is “act.”  Take some small step to make your situation different.   Brainstorm a written list of everything you can think of that might help and them put one of your ideas to work.  Make a phone call, set an appointment, write a resume.  If you can’t decide, ask one of your wiser friends or a mentor to help you choose.  Every step you take will open up new possibilities—just the way a car’s headlights illuminate the path ahead in the dark.
3.  Avoid Triggers—If possible, avoid the places, things and people who trigger your ruminating.  Take up some new interest that will let you build self-confidence, like  a new hobby or a course that interests you.  Not only will it distract you, but it will give you a broadened perspective of yourself.  And if it’s appealing to you at all, learn to meditate, or get back to a meditation practice if you have had one in the past.  The relaxation will be a definite aid in freeing you from overthinking.

Finally, Lubromirsky says, get some perspective on your problem.  Ask yourself, “Will this matter at all five years from now?”  Or think about outer space and how vast it is, how small we and our planet and our squabbles are in comparison.

Emotion-Based and Action-Based Solutions

Fredrickson says the solutions to overthinking are either emotion-based or action-focused.  Although both approaches are effective for everyone, because it is not their usual approach, women tend to do a bit better with action-focused solutions like those in #2 above, while men benefit from emotion-focused solutions, such as getting emotional support from a friend, or using the distraction techniques described in the “Break Loose” and “Avoid Triggers” techniques.

The Victory

Because overthinking is so compelling, it takes determination, effort and practice to break free—especially if it’s a familiar pattern for you.  But by putting the strategies to work, you can recover. When you free yourself from its grip, you begin to see greater possibilities and greater potentials within yourself.  In short, you begin to thrive.

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