Finding Meaning in Your Life

Finding MeaningIf  you got to this page because you were searching for an article on finding meaning, chances are you’re feeling dissatisfied with your life in some way, as if it should be more than it is.

Maybe you’re lonely or feeling empty, or insignificant.  That’s what meaning is, a feeling of personal significance, a feeling that your life matters, that you’re important in some way.

You are.  You do.   That’s the bottom line.

Need more convincing?  Read on.

Four Things to Know About Meaning

First of all, you’re not alone in looking for meaning in your life.  All the Big Brains who study and research and contemplate meaning agree that, on some level, every single one of us searches for it.  We all want to know that there’s some purpose for our being here.

Meaning, says psychologist Michael F. Steger, Ph.D., lets us make sense of our lives and lets us live purposefully in the world.  “Meaning,” he says, “is a unique expression of what makes us human, and what makes us great when we’re at our best.  The data from four decades of research are clear, meaning matters.”

Secondly, you matter to you If you didn’t, you wouldn’t even be looking for answers.  You wouldn’t care about relieving the pain of your loneliness, or your dissatisfaction, or your sense of insignificance.  Let yourself say this to the person reading these words:  “I matter to me.”

You’re important to yourself, too.  You’ve set everything else aside right now just to search for some understanding, comfort and healing.  You’ve let yourself be your top priority.  Own it: “I’m important to me.”

A third thing to know about meaning is that it isn’t the same thing as happiness, or success, or fulfillment, or being loved.   You can experience your life as meaningful even in the midst of great sadness, or failure, or loneliness, or pain.  You still matter; you’re still important.  There’s still a reason for your being.

“But what is that reason?” you may cry back to me.

Well, that’s where things get a little complicated.  I can tell you my personal answer and I can tell you about the reasons that others have suggested, but in the end, you have to discover your answer for yourself.  Because the final thing to know about your life’s meaning is that it’s personalized.  Your reason for being may be the same as mine.  But it may be different, too.  You get to decide.   Meaning isn’t something that the outside world gives you.  It’s something that your life offers you through the living of it.

How to Find Your Meaning

Viktor Frankl, a psychiatrist from the last century who probably thought about meaning more than anybody else ever has, said that we can find meaning in three ways.

The first way is through creating something or doing some kind of activity or work.   The second way is through engagement with the world or with another person.  And the third way is by taking an attitude of defiance toward suffering.

Defiance Toward Suffering

Let’s start with the last one first.  If you’re suffering, just by finding this article you were exercising your defiance of your pain.  You had already made up your mind not to let it rob you of your meaning.   You had chosen to rise above your pain, to be greater than it.  And you were doing more than that, too.  You were exercising courage and the will to keep on keeping on.  Both of those qualities are personal strengths and clues to what gives your life meaning.  You’re saying, “I’m important to me.  I matter.”

I knew a woman who suffered from an incurable disease that slowly paralyzed her body.  When it forced her to retire from her work, she vowed that she would do at least one useful or creative thing every day.  And she did, and it gave her life meaning.

Toward the end, the only creative thing she could do was smile.  And she did that, too, every day.

She used her ability to accomplish something to defy her pain and suffering.  What a valiant spirit!

Finding Meaning through Work and Activity

In his beautiful  article on finding meaning through work and activity, minister Lee Woofenden offers this explanation for the way that our work contributes to our life’s meaning:

“…our most real and human aspect is the love and understanding that forms our mind or spirit. This is what makes us truly human. And the world of our thoughts and feelings is the one that we inhabit most intensely and deeply.

“And yet . . . if our thoughts and feelings have no means of expression, they also lack a certain sense of reality. It is not enough for us to simply feel strong feelings and think enlightened thoughts. We humans have an innate drive to express those thoughts and feelings through our words and actions, and in our relationships with our environment and our fellow human beings.”

It’s the physical expression of our inner spirit, Woofenden says, that allows us to feel fulfilled.

I heartily invite you to read his entire article for deeper insight.

“Work” doesn’t necessarily mean the job you do for a living, of course.  It can mean gardening, washing the car, or sweeping the floor.  But it does also mean your job.  And if you think that what you do for a living isn’t meaningful, you might benefit from looking at it a little differently.  Try seeing how what you do fits into the bigger picture, how it has its place in a complex organization that, in some way, helps your fellow man.

Whatever work you’re doing, the more of yourself you can put into it, the more meaningful it will be for you.

Engaging with Life and People

Psychologists who are studying the ways that a sense of meaning shows up in our lives are discovering that when you ask people what was meaningful to them in the past couple of days, they’ll name times when they were doing things they enjoyed, whether that was a solitary hobby or having lunch with a friend.

It’s often the moments of simple pleasure that make our lives feel worthwhile.

“Finding meaning in life can be exciting when you bestow loving focus, attention and care on to what you do,” writes Naveena Gerrits  in her wonderfully helpful article on engaging in meaningful activities.

She provides a big clue to extracting meaning in that sentence: give your activities your loving focus, attention and care.

Doing that will keep you rooted in the present and help you enter the flow state, that space where you’re so engaged that you lose all track of time.

If you want to find a path to meaning that suits your personality and style, Gerrits’ article is a fabulous place to go for suggestions.  She lists dozens and dozens of activities you might explore, broken down into the headings:

  • Creative Forms of Expression
  • Hobbies  – Work – Career
  • Ethics – Contribution – Society
  • Environment – Nature – Cosmos
  • Relationships – Family – Home
  • Spirituality – Religion – Philosophy

The Ultimate Meaning

Throughout the ages, humans have been trying to find the meaning of life.  The ultimate reason for our being is one of life’s ultimate mysteries.  The answer you choose to the question, “Why are we here?” like the answer to finding the meaning in your own life, is a personal matter and depends, in large part, on your spiritual or philosophical orientation.

You may even decide that, because it has no one-size-fits-all answer, the only honest answer is “Beats me!”  It’s too big a question for most of us.

But “What makes my life worthwhile?” is a question that hits home for us all.  Your answer may change as your life changes.  You may find it in relationships today, in your work tomorrow, or in overcoming suffering at some point along the way.  Think of discovering the meaning in your life as a day by day adventure.

Every day, try to do something that gives you a sense of satisfaction, achievement, relatedness, contribution or pleasure.  Let your personal interests guide you in finding them and experiment from time to time with new things.  You can print out a copy of Gerrit’s list or bookmark it and review it every now and then for ideas.

Increase the attention you give to your health, too – to the quality of your nutrition, to giving yourself adequate amounts of hydration, exercise and sleep.   The healthier you are, the easier it is to feel zest for life.

Take the VIA (Values in Action) Survey and learn what your highest personal strengths are.  Then find ways that you can use them more often and in different applications in your life.

Try keeping a gratitude journal to increase your awareness of the things that let you feel good about being alive today.

And every day, tell yourself “I’m important to me.  I matter.”  Because you are, and you do.

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Ordinary Meaning: Finding Your Purpose in Life

Finding MeaningIf you secretly cringe at the suggestion that you need to find your capital-P Purpose in life, you’re not alone.  Ask a hundred guys on the street to tell you their life’s Purpose and, chances are, you’ll get a hundred blank stares.

Nevertheless, the idea that each of us has some unique and specific reason for being permeates the whole of our culture.   We’re taught that until we discover our Purpose and devote our lives to fulfilling it, we have no hope of living a truly significant or life.

Happily, new research by University of Missouri psychology professor Dr. Laura A. King into the meaning of life’s meaning is putting that notion in its place.  People all over the world, it turns out, find their lives meaningful whether they’re following some grand purpose or not.  In fact, the new studies indicate, life has meaning built right in.

Meaning isn’t some lofty ideal that’s experienced only by an elite, privileged few.  It’s an automatic part of everybody’s life, tucked right into our ordinary day-to-day living.  

That doesn’t mean that identifying purpose in your life is a waste of time.  Far from it.  The reason that we’re encouraged to find purpose in the first place is because having a sense of purpose contributes so much to the meaningfulness of life.   But the new research does give us a broader perspective as we explore its place in our lives.

Why Purpose Matters

Having a purpose promotes goal-directed living.  When you know what you’re striving to accomplish with your life, you have a sense of direction.  You spend less time on things that don’t matter; you’re more focused.

Having a purpose infuses your life with more passion. It gives you reasons to get out of bed in the morning.

But above all, striving toward a purpose gives your life a sense of meaning.  And the bottom line is that it’s meaning we’re truly seeking.

If you have a strong sense of meaning in your life, says meaning expert Dr. Michael Steger of Colorado State University, “you’re much more likely to feel pleasing emotions like love, joy, and vitality.  On top of that, you’re more likely to be satisfied with your life, and more accepting and satisfied with yourself. In addition, you’re more likely to feel like you have an active hand in shaping your own life, and are likely looking forward to a bright future.”

Dr. King agrees.  People who rate their lives as meaningful, she says, are better off than those who don’t.  They have a higher quality of life, better physical and mental health, slower age decline, less Altzhiemers, better coping abilities, heightened occupational assessment, longer lives, and are more socially appealing.

During times of challenge, having a sense of meaning and purpose can help you weather the storm and see things in the context of your life-story.   As Dr. Steger says this in his article about facing the loss of your job:

Nietzsche had another saying, “He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.”  If you have created, discovered, invested, and fostered meaning in your life, momentary – even severe – set-backs take their proper place in your life. You can take perspective and see that these challenges fit into the greater story of your life, and that your story intertwines with the stories of the people you love.  Your life can be bigger than the setbacks; your story can be bigger than your life.

According to the VIA (Values in Action) Character Strengths Survey™, having a sense of purpose is a part of the strength of Spirituality.  When you rank high in it, you’re told that, “You have strong and coherent beliefs about the higher purpose and meaning of the universe. You know where you fit in the larger scheme. Your beliefs shape your actions and are a source of comfort to you.”

That definition takes purposefulness into the metaphysical realm.  From this perspective, it’s more than just knowing what you want to accomplish; it involves a set of beliefs about the meaning of the universe itself and your place in it.

For many of us, that’s a tall order, and outside the scope of our interests.  And it’s this exalted view of meaning that Dr. King’s work addresses, bringing the topic of meaning back to the ground.

Built-In Meaning

Meaning isn’t always something that we have to stop and create or construct, Dr. King said in a recent private teleseminar.  It’s something that can happen to us, that can emerge from the world.  It can come from unexpected places to sit in our lives of its own accord, as happens with intuitions and synchronicities that spontaneously guide and confirm us, often in significant ways.   Then it’s just a matter of noticing something that’s signaling us about something that we need to know.

The world, says Dr. King, is not inherently meaningless.  It’s characterized by natural regularity, by associations between events that have importance to us.   Rats in labs, to take a simple example, learn that pressing a bar when a light turns on means food will appear.  Their readiness to learn about associations shows that the natural world is not chaotic or random.  The reliability of such associations is necessary to their survival – and to ours.

When over 100,000 people in 32 nations were asked if their lives had meaning, 91% of them said yes, they did.  And the biggest percentage of those who agreed lived in the impoverished nation of Sierra Leone.   The ability to find meaningful connections is more important when it is plainly necessary to survival, says Dr. King.

That’s the adaptive problem that the feeling of meaningfulness solves: the connection between events.

The body is wired to make reliable connections from an environment that is filled with them in the same way that it’s filled with oxygen.  The meaningful associations are everywhere, all the time.  Meaning tracks the presence of the world making sense, Dr. King says, and it comes in on a non-conscious level, an intuitive level that serves adaptation.

We, as human beings, are lucky that we get to recognize meaning for what it is, to feel it.  We understand that the convergence of things matters.

Everyday Purpose and Meaning

Whether your daily activities are in service of some higher purpose that you have identified for yourself or are simply the routines you do to get through the day, the web of meaning is always operating for you, revealing the connections that are available to help you fulfill your intentions.

In fact, Dr. King’s research shows a positive correlation between a routinized life and feeling a sense of meaning.

You are a living part of the web of connections that arises from an inherently meaningful world.  It will trigger meaningful associations for you whether your purpose is to cure cancer or simply to figure out what’s for dinner.

Dr. King’s research also shows that the strongest predictor of whether a day feels like it was meaningful is the simple experience of pleasure that day.  When you ask people what the most meaningful events of their lives are, they list the same kinds of things:  the prom, graduation, marriage, childbirth.  But when you ask them about the most meaningful things in the last two days, they tell you about everyday events they enjoyed—like chatting with a friend about a problem over lunch.

Meaning isn’t something that you have to work for, Dr. King says.  Notice the simple pleasures in your life.  When you’re enjoying life, it feels more meaningful.

But notice, too, she advises, the range of emotions you feel.  Sadness, loss, and grief can be meaningful, too.  In fact, the richly emotional life is often the most meaningful one in the long run, the one that contains both the highs and the lows.

And above all, notice the magic and the connections.  In the end, Dr. King says, we’re born into a world that makes sense.

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Finding Meaning in Your Life

Baby Touching Man's HandFinding meaning in your life is a lot like finding happiness.  The first thing you have to do is realize that it’s not out there in the world somewhere, waiting to be discovered.  It’s something you create from the stuff of your own life, moment by moment by moment.

Have you ever been through some class or course where you were asked to write a “mission statement” for your life?  (Don’t worry; I’m not going to ask you to do that.)  I have.  And for me, it was usually a daunting and frustrating challenge.  “Just say who you are and what you’re all about in 25 words or less.”  Oh, sure.

I understand now that the point was to get me to think about the purpose and meaning of my life—what I wanted it to be about.  But I also understand now that the meaning of our lives isn’t something we can nail down in a few words.  In fact, it’s a pliable, multifaceted thing that’s hard to nail down at all.

Viktor E. Frankl,   founder of logotherapy and author of the classic book Man’s Search for Meaning says the same thing.  “For the meaning of life differs from man to man,” he wrote, “from day to day and from hour to hour. What matters, therefore, is not the meaning of life in general but rather the specific meaning of a person’s life at a given moment.”

The Search for Meaning

If meaning is so fluid, then how can we grasp hold of it in a way that will help us live our lives?  We’ll look at practical, down-to-earth ways to do that in a minute.  But first, let’s talk about that basic human itch to find meaning in our lives in the first place.

The fact is, we all want to feel that our lives matter.  We want to feel useful in some way.  We want to have a heartfelt sense that there’s a reason for us to keep on keeping on.  That’s our quest for meaning.  And having a sense that our lives have meaning is so important to our well-being that Martin Seligman names “Meaning” as one of the five basic pillars of human flourishing.

Seligman defines meaning as “belonging to and serving something you believe is bigger than the self.”  And it’s that “something” that each of us has to identify for ourselves.

It doesn’t have to be some great cause—although it can be.  It doesn’t have to be an accomplishment so extraordinary that it brings you notoriety or fame—although it may.  But it does have to be something bigger than you as a solitary self, even if it’s as abstract as “serving life,” or “serving God.”  And it has to be something that matters to you, right down to your core.

For most of us, Seligman says, what gives our lives meaning and purpose are our connections to other people.  It’s not about you; it’s about the way you connect with and give of yourself to others.

Where to Look for Meaning

The essential question you need to ask yourself when you set out to find your life’s meaning is “What matters most to me?”

It can take some digging to figure that out.  If you would like some help in exploring it, you can go to The One Question and take their free online “test,” with 14 probing questions that guide you in identifying what matters most to you.  You’ll be signed up for their newsletter; but you may enjoy it, and you can cancel at any time.

Generally, the meaning we create in our lives is based in the values we hold to be of greatest value to us.  Maybe what you most aspire to is the deepening of your spirituality.  Maybe you want to see more fairness and justice in the world.  Maybe you’re driven by learning, a quest for ever-expanding knowledge and wisdom.  Maybe you want, above all, to be a great leader, or to love well.

Once you know what your core values are, you can increase your sense of meaning by deciding how to express them in new and challenging ways.

An excellent way to discover what values rank highest in your life is to take the VIA Character Strengths survey, also free online at The VIA Institute of Character.  Click on the red box on the right to take the free survey, or click the “VIA Me” to learn how to get a more in-depth analysis for a nominal cost.  Look at the top five values when you receive your results.  These are the values that are strongest for you—your personal top strengths.  These will give you a sense of the qualities that you are already living most fully in your life.

You can find a list of the 24 strengths that the VIA measures here.  You may prefer simply to read through the descriptions and see which ones resonate most strongly for you.

Finding Meaning in Everyday Life

Frankl, remember, said, “What matters, therefore, is not the meaning of life in general but rather the specific meaning of a person’s life at a given moment.”  It’s in our day-to-day lives that we create meaning for our lives.

Living in alignment with our values isn’t a skill we master easily. We have all these messy old habits and shortcomings that we keep stumbling over, after all.  But aspiring to live by them is what gives them their meaning for us.

One way to work on increasing your sense of meaning is to decide which one or two parts of your life matter most to you.  Look at the following list and rank the following life-areas 1-5 in terms of their importance to you:

  • Health
  • Career
  • Finances
  • Spouse/Partner
  • Family
  • Friends
  • Fun
  • Physical Environment
  • Community
  • Spirituality

Then, holding your highest values in mind, try writing out two or three sentences about how you would like to express those values more fully in the two most important areas of your life.  If you were your very best self in this area of your life, what would it look like?  What kinds of things would you do?  How would you act?  What kind of attitude would you have?

Allow yourself to spend some time thinking about it.  Make an effort to push your boundaries, to make the actions you imagine truly superb.  Put aside any limitations in resources and push for the highest excellence you can imagine.

You may not be able to implement your vision right away, but it will provide you with an ideal toward which you can devote your effort.   Buddha said, “Your work is to discover your work and then, with all your heart, to give yourself to it.”  So find the areas of your life that speak the clearest to you, and then give them yourself to them with all the passion and dedication you can muster.  Do that, and every step you take will be meaningful.

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This is the 4th article of five in a series about Martin Seligman’s five pillars of well-being.  In addition to Meaning, the other four pillars are:  Positive Emotions, Engagement, Positive Relationships, and Accomplishment.

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The Positive Power of Loving Kindness Meditation

As I write this, Christmas is only a few days away, with its universal proclamation of the hope that all of us–regardless of our personal spiritual orientations–hold in our hearts:  “Peace on Earth; Goodwill to Men.”

Given the tension in the world, it’s a hope that may seem nearly impossible these days.  But there is a way to make it real within our own lives–and to extend it to others.

Gandhi counseled, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”  If we truly wish for peace and goodwill, it’s up to us to live them.  And to the extent that we do, we tip the scales in their favor, while experiencing their soothing warmth in our own hearts.

With that in mind, and as my holiday gift to you, I want to share with you a powerful practice called “Loving Kindness Meditation.”

Rooted in Buddhism, it’s been the subject of positive psychology studies as well, conducted by world renowned researcher Dr. Barbara Fredrickson.

What she discovered is that Loving Kindness Meditation increased both how often and how powerfully participants experienced  a wealth of positive emotions:

  • love,
  • joy,
  • gratitude,
  • contentment,
  • hope,
  • pride,
  • amusement, and
  • awe.

Not only that, but the participants experienced more mindfulness, self-acceptance, positive relationships and good health.   And over time, the good feelings strengthened their sense of satisfaction with their lives and built the resources available to them to live fully and well.

What is Loving Kindness Meditation?

The phrase “loving kindness” comes from the Pali word metta.  Its meaning embraces the concepts of friendliness, goodwill, benevolence, fellowship, inoffensiveness and non-violence as well.

In his article titled, “Metta: The Philosophy and Practice of Universal Love,” Acharya Buddharakkhita  says, “True metta is devoid of self-interest.  It evokes within a warm-hearted feeling of fellowship, sympathy and love, which grows boundless with practice and overcomes all social, religious, racial, political and economic barriers.  Metta is indeed a universal, unselfish and all-embracing love.”

Loving Kindness Meditation is a practice of sending loving thoughts to all breathing beings, starting with you.

How Do You Practice It?

Although practicing it will reveal many layers of yourself to you, the process itself is simple.

As with any meditation, you begin by relaxing in a comfortable position, with eyes closed, in a place where you can be undisturbed.  Then, putting a gentle smile on your face, let go of any negative thought or feeling.  Begin by saying to yourself, “May I be safe from danger;  May I be healthy; May I be happy; May I live with ease.”  Just breathe for awhile and sincerely wish yourself these blessings.

After you have practiced wishing yourself well for a several sessions, practice sending your wishes for safety, health, happiness and ease to your circle of loved ones, imagining each of them one at a time and speaking your wishes to him or her directly in your mind.

The next stage is to move on to those people whom you know casually—neighbors, coworkers, acquaintances, members of your community.

After that comes the challenging part: to send your four wishes to those toward whom you feel anger or resentment or hostility.

And finally, you send your well-wishes to everyone, everywhere, as sincerely as you can.

Another variation is to begin with yourself, then, in the same session, to send your wishes outwards to others in the same order listed above, ending with your wishes circling the entire globe.

The Many Layers of Loving Kindness Meditation

The article by Buddharakkhita mentioned above beautifully describes the power and practice of loving kindness meditation.  It’s a graceful, easy read and gives a couple methods as well as the original phrases used in the meditation.  It explains how wishing is willing, and how willing can have causal effects, bringing about genuine reconciliation and healing.

Sharon Salzberg, co-founder and senior instructor of Insight Meditation  Society, has a CD set, Lovingkindness Meditation, that I, personally, have very much enjoyed and that has helped me with my own practice and understanding, as well as books on the subject.  She introduces you to the nuances of the meditation and guides you past the obstacles you face when you try sincerely to love yourself, and when you’re dealing with those in the “enemy” category.  And she makes it all feel so human and natural and puts you at ease.

Even if you decide that a steady practice of it isn’t for you, doing a few casual rounds of it in the morning when you think of it can make a tremendous difference in your day.  That’s what the participants in Dr. Fredrickson’s studies discovered.  They also found that it was easy to stick with because each session had its subtle variations; it didn’t get old.

“May you be safe; May you be healthy; May you be happy; May you live with ease.”  That’s all there is to it:  A wish from your heart for peace and goodwill for everyone, everywhere.

And this holiday season, and always, that is my wish for you.

Pass it on!



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How to Live a Meaningful Life

Most of us don’t lie awake at night wondering whether our life has meaning and purpose.But if you want to live life fully, knowing what really matters to you is crucial.

Light BearerOkay, most of us don’t lie awake at night wondering whether our life has meaning and purpose.  We’re too occupied with paying the rent, delivering tomorrow’s presentation, wondering if that new woman at work is available, remembering the errands we have to run in the morning.

We tend to put off the Big Questions until they’re staring us in the face, usually in less than pleasant circumstances:  We find out we have a life-threatening disease.   A relationship ends.  Our work becomes unbearable.  Someone we love dies.

But if you want to live a life full of zest and joy and satisfaction, knowing what really matters to you is crucial.

 What is a Meaningful Life?

Some say life’s an amusement park.  Some say it’s a school.  For some its purpose is to find enlightenment or the will of God.  For some, life has no meaning at all.

But what I’m talking about here isn’t some abstract, philosophical truth.  I’m talking about the kind of meaning that counts when the rubber meets the road—the kind that powers your real, everyday life.

Maybe there isn’t any other kind of meaning.  Maybe Anais Nin nailed it when she said,

“There is not one big cosmic meaning for all, there is only the meaning we each give to our life, an individual meaning, an individual plot, like a novel, a book for each person.”

She gives us the key when she says meaning is something we give to our lives.  It’s not something “out there” that we find; it’s something we project into the world through the choices we make in our lives about the values we will live by, through our dedication to the causes and people who matter to us.

Why Meaning Matters

In his article “Find Meaning,” motivational writer Chuck Gallozzi said, “the purpose of life is to live a life of purpose.”    

Man, apart from all other creatures, is a seeker of meaning.  Without it, life feels empty and provides no genuine satisfaction.   Power, wealth, or pleasure are hollow in and of themselves, leading to nothing but a craving for more.   It’s only when they come as natural byproducts of our will and passion to create, to give, and to serve that they truly enrich us.

When you know how you want to be in the world and what matters to you, when you have a sense of purpose for your life, you feel enriched and eager for each day.

Purposeful living gives us a sense of direction.  It lets us spot opportunities to express ourselves in ways that give us feelings of satisfaction and self-worth.    When we know what is meaningful to us, we greet our days with courage and see them as offering us yet another chance to experience life’s challenges with strength and a determination to be the best we can be.

How to Discover Meaning in Your Life

Viktor Frankl, whose book Man’s Search for Meaning – considered by the Library of Congress to be one of “the ten most influential books in America” – , says meaning comes to us when we accept full responsibility for how we will respond to life and how we will give ourselves to the world.

It’s a matter of the attitude you determine to take toward life and of what you choose to give of yourself.

Know Your Values

One way to drill down to the attitudes and values that mean the most to you is to assess your personal strengths.   Is it important to you to be courageous? Creative? Kind? Authentic? A strong leader?  Knowing your top strengths gives you guidelines to follow when you’re faced with a choice about how you want to respond to the world.  It allows you to choose in a way that’s meaningful for you.

Decide What’s Important

Another way is to think about the different life arenas—relationships, family ,health, career, recreation, spirituality—and pick out which one or two mean the most to your right now.  They may change in their level of importance as you go through your life, but pick the one or two that take top place for you right now.

Next, ask yourself how you want to act in this life arena.  How would your Ideal Self behave?

Spend twenty minutes writing about how you see yourself acting in that sphere of your life.

Think about it when you’re on your commute or waiting in a line somewhere.  What you focus on expands in your experience, so take the time to consider what kind of actions you want to see yourself doing.

Spend time imagining how you could put these kinds of actions into play in a challenging situation.

Begin practicing your ideal behaviors right away, a baby step at a time, until they become second nature.  Because these are actions you have identified as meaningful, you will feel wonderfully enriched and satisfied when you do them.  And opportunities to put them into practice will become enticingly attractive to you.

Find Opportunities to Give of Yourself

To know that we’re making the world a better place is a powerful source of meaning.  Whether it’s making a decision to follow your big dream to join a service or volunteer organization, making regular donations to a cause, or simply smiling at the clerk at the grocery store, all of us have ways to contribute to the world’s well-being, to serve our fellow beings.

Focusing on what you can do for others lets you transcend yourself.   Serving others, in whatever way is compatible with your personality, talents and skills, benefits you as much as those you’re serving.

Service breeds positivity and is one hallmark of positive living.  As positivity expert Dr. Barbara Fredrickson observed, positive people not only feel good, they do good.  And they do it because it gives their live meaning.

Take the time to identify what’s most meaningful in your life, then commit yourself to it with all your heart.  Not only will you feel a heightened sense of self-worth, purpose and direction, but you will touch the lives of others in meaningful ways, too.  That’s just the way it works.  Isn’t that beautiful?

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